Why is Make Up Sex so Good?
You’ve just had a massive row with your boyfriend and you’re furious with him. You’re blinded by rage, the injustice of his actions and the downright unfairness of it all. Your heart is pumping like mad and you’re tense, upset and hate him.
Then you watch him slowly walk over to you, take your hand, fix your gaze with his teary hazel eyes and say sorry. He’ll never do it again. He was wrong. He loves you.
Next minute you’re shagging on the floor like there’s no tomorrow having uninhibited, explosive, hard, demanding sex! There is no sex like make up sex!
Strange, isn’t it? How sex can be so electrifying when you’d think it would be complicated by the row you’ve just had. So why does make up sex feel so good?
There are both emotional and physiological reasons. When you’re having an argument with someone both your adrenaline and dopamine levels rise. Your higher adrenaline levels boosts the supply of oxygen to the brain and muscles, and your elevated dopamine levels are priming the pleasure centres in your brain making you far more receptive to sexual stimulus.
In short, your mind is far more receptive to sex, and boy is your body is ready for it!
On an emotional level, when you’ve had an argument with someone you care for and made up, the barriers that existed between you are broken down. The way is clear for intimacy, and the elevated adrenaline and dopamine levels demand it! In short, you’ve got the sexual ‘perfect storm’.
Make up gay sex can also be very uninhibited. Remember that adrenaline? Who cares, it says…anything goes. Caution is thrown to the wind! On a serious note watch out if you’re playing safe as you may be tempted to not bother with the condom.
There are a few other things to watch for. If you’re only having sex after an argument your sexual relationship could be in trouble.
Another thing is when you skip the ‘make up’ part! It turns into ‘argument sex’! The aggression of the argument itself and your physiological response turns you on so much that before you know it you’re both at it again without the argument itself being resolved.
After you’ve come you feel loneliness and isolation, both wondering whether to cuddle with your differences still looming between you. Sometimes this kind of sex can actually mark the end of a gay relationship – the ‘one for the road’ syndrome.
That said, make up sex is normally incredibly passionate and fulfilling sex that is crucial in sustaining intimacy through hard times.
05 March 2009
by David Abrehart
(c) copyright 2009. All rights reserved
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