Everyone is different, but these three great sex secrets work for most gay guys:
Secret 1: Sexual Chemistry
Sexual chemisty - the elusive X-factor that turbo charges your sex life
Sexual Chemistry is the gay sex X-factor. Have you ever had crap sex with a guy with model looks? Or had amazing sex with a guy you wouldn’t look at in the street?
Welcome to sexual chemistry - the elusive but essential ingredient to mind-blowing gay sex! Sexual chemistry is when you psychologically bond with your partner in a way that allows you to experience the deepest states of arousal.
Finding Sexual Chemistry
a) Sexual role - make sure he fulfils a compatable sexual role - if you’re a bottom for instance, then he needs to be a top or vers. Sounds obvious? It is, but this is a crucial first step. Likewise if you’re looking to play to a particular fetish then make sure he is too. Gay dating sites are excellent places to search by role or fetish.
b) Physical attributes - don’t get too hung up on this. As men we tend to judge by appearance, however sexual chemistry bridges age gaps, and gaps in physical attractiveness. Beauty really is only skin deep. Broaden the age range you’re prepared to consider, and don’t write someone off just because they have a hairy back. Really!
c) Chat to him. This is crucial - you’ll soon see if there is a spark there or not. Use gay chat rooms or speak on the telephone - the talk may get dirty which is great, but even if you just click conversationally it may mean you’re more likely to be compatable in bed.
d) Use gay dating sites that encourage friendship too. Sites like Mothership where you can make new mates as well as cruise for sex are great places to find sexual chemistry because they allow you to get to know other guys in a less pressured, natural way.
Great sexual chemistry from Brokeback Mountain’s Jack and Ennis
Making Sexual Chemistry
Sometimes the sexual chemistry with another guy will be instantaneous and you’ll have fireworks straight away. Most times it will need help. A lot of guys will relax more as they get to know you better, and relaxed guys are more likely to click in bed.
Hold on to Sexual Chemistry
If you do find someone who you have great sexual chemistry with, then don’t let it go. Mind-blowing sex may not come along that often!
Secret 2: Generosity
The gift that gives back!
One of the greatest secrets to amazing gay sex is to be generous in bed. By generous, I mean concentrating on delivering sexual pleasure to your partner, and not just catering to your own sexual desires.
By aiming to please each other, not only do you both get better sex but the very act itself of pleasing your partner can be highly arousing. By delivering an enhanced erotic state to him, you’re also enhancing your own erotic pleasure.
As you get to know each other sexually you’ll be better able to max-out his fun, perhaps by delaying his orgasm and keeping him at the sexual plateau stage for as long as possible, or by wearing clothes that he likes, or working on his arse. The possibilities are endless - the point is that by being selfless in bed you receive more than you give.
Secret 3: Abstinence and Exercise
Abstinence can lead to better sex
You’re going to enjoy sex more if you haven’t cum for a day or two at least. If you’ve had a wank a few hours ago, or already had sex earlier in the day, then the sex won’t be as good as if you’d not cum for 24-48 hours.
This simple fact can be overlooked because many guys can still perform, and still enjoy sex even if they’ve cum 30 minutes ago. However you’ll enjoy your sex even more if you abstain for a while - abstain for a few days or even a week and you’ll be fully loaded when it comes to sex time!
Two exceptions! If you or your partner suffer from premature ejaculation this advice may not be so appropriate. Also, there is no need to refuse sex in the hope of even better sex later! Go with the flow, all I’m saying is that if you can plan ahead and abstain then all the better.
Try to exercise a few hours before you have sex. The exercise makes you feel better about yourself, improves circulation and releases feel-good endorphins - all big bonuses. Plus if you see some hot bods in the showers at the gym your fire will be stoked even more!
So, hold off the wanking for a while before you have sex, and get some exercise in too.
That’s it. Three secrets for mind-blowing gay sex:
- Find sexual chemistry
- Be generous in bed
- Don’t cum for 24-48+ hours before, but do exercise before sex
Have fun!
By David Abrehart
(c) Copyright 2009. All rights reserved.
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