Posted February 4th, 2010 by 1stofficer
Gay guys cheating
Of course it isn’t only gay men who cheat. Exposure of footballer John Terry’s recent marital lapse has prompted many of us to ponder our infidelities. Just being men, we may argue, we have an inbuilt tendency to roam and be predatory, or to get bored and distracted. As gay men we’re confronted by a lot of adorable blokes on the scene and a massive industry promoting the enticements of a gay lifestyle everywhere we look. Even gay couples who have been together twenty years or more are highly likely to have had sexual encounters with other men during that time - they just failed to break them up.
A friend was saying to me the other day (he’s a regular shag of mine), that he knows his boyfriend sleeps around and he doesn’t mind (naturally), but he can’t understand why his partner denies it and refuses to talk about it. I think it’s a consequence of the way we’ve come over many years , seeking the right to express gay love and imagining ourselves in some ideal relationship similar to the biblical one of David and Jonathan. This somehow fed into our liking for the muscle-bound heroes of the great screen epics over the decades, like Steve Reeves (Hercules Unchained), Stephen Boyd (Ben Hur), and Brad Pitt (Troy). It doesn’t take much to translate that into images of brave, young soldiers fighting the forces of Islamo-fascism today, and dying to preserve the free world we are an essential part of. Read the rest of this entry »
Posted July 16th, 2009 by 1stofficer
Three Tests to Catch Your Lying Boyfriend
Is your gay boyfriend lying?
No one likes being lied to, but it happens to all of us in our lives. However, it can be especially hurtful in our gay relationships.
The trouble is, sometimes it is so hard to tell if he is lying to you. We’ve put together three tests which you can use to help find out if you have a lying boyfriend.
Lie Detectors are Never 100% Accurate!
Before we give you the tests, note that no lie detector test is 100% accurate. However, these tests will give you a strong indication if your partner is lying. Here are the three tests: Read the rest of this entry »
Posted May 11th, 2009 by 1stofficer
Can Gay Guys Stay Monogamous?
No, they can’t - at least most gay guys can’t anyway.
Did Oscar Wilde understand the temptations gay couples have, and how hard they are to resist?
Gay Monogamy - What the Experts Say
Numerous studies have shown that relationships between gay men very rarely remain sexually monogamous over time.
One study found that most couples interviewed had a broader perspective on what the word ‘fidelity’ implies, “fidelity is not defined in terms of sexual behaviour, but rather by their emotional commitment to one another.”
But does this sound like a cop-out? Isn’t that a nice convenient definition of the word? The same study (by David McWhirter and Andrew Mattison) had some other interesting findings: two thirds of the 156 couples interviewed expected their relationship to be exclusively monogamous when they started going out, but after 5 years not one couple remained sexually monogamous! Read the rest of this entry »
Posted March 21st, 2009 by 1stofficer
10 clues to watch out for:
Gay Dating and Gay Chat Sites
Has your boyfriend been using new gay dating sites and gay chat rooms recently? Check in the browser history if you’re not sure. However, just because he is using gay chat sites does not necessarily mean he is pursuing gay meets – it could be simply to hang out with other hot gay guys. Read the rest of this entry »
