Gay Cruising Sites - A Serious Business?

Why is gay cruising online such a serious business?

Do Gay Cruising Sites Need to Lighten Up?

Why do gay cruising sites take themselves so seriously?  You’re just looking for a shag, not a nuclear weapons component!

Let’s face it, when you log in to some gay ‘dating’ sites (dating hardly being the operative word) everyone takes it so seriously! The gay chat rooms will often be full of guys…yet no one says a word, instead guys lurk in the cyber-shadows evaluating the fresh meat!

There is often an unfriendly attitude and everything focuses on the cold-hearted, clinical search for the ultimate gay orgasm!  Is gay cruising online really such an important, grave matter? 

Gay Cruising Sites

Gay cruising sites often encourage this attitude by concentrating on the hunt for sex with little or no room for anything else.  Theming will often be oppressively dark or grey with metal panelling or brickwork effects. 

It’s all about compartmentalising sex a thousand different ways by fetish, age, cock size, role, activity…the list goes on and on.  The trouble is, that by exclusively concentrating on catering for our sexual needs only, gay cruising sites like this only serve in dehumanising us and do not encourage us to interact with other guys online in a positive way. 

Missing a Trick - the X-factor You Can’t Measure

We can be missing a trick on sites like this.  Sure we can measure cock size, height, even try to evaluate percentage top/bottom (?!) - but you can’t measure chemistry.  Have you ever had crap sex with a stunning guy who ticked all the online boxes?  Or have you enjoyed mind-blowing sex with someone you wouldn’t look twice at on the street?

Chemistry is the key to the most fulfilling sex we can ever have - that’s where you find the best gay sex.  It is the open and friendly interaction with other guys that allows this sexual chemistry to develop, and you’re less likely to find this ‘X-factor’ on sites that concentrate on cruising only.

Gay Dating Sites

Fortunately there are many gay dating sites out there.  To find a gay cruising site that encourages friendly interaction then choose one with a strong networking element in addition to dating and cruising.  This way you can still cruise without the heavy oppressive atmosphere, and you’ll find you’ll have a friendlier and more rewarding experience - in every way

The Bigger Picture

One last thing - don’t lose sight of the bigger picture.  The amazing freedom we now have as gay guys to find sex online is liberating.  However, don’t allow your online cruising to do yourself a disservice by neglecting your need for friendship and love.  Be friendly to other guys when you’re cruising online - you never know where it may lead.

by David Abrehart

(c) Copyright 2009.  All rights reserved.

David Abrehart is a co-owner of Mothership Gay Dating. 

Mothership is an adult gay dating site that is redefining how gay men date in the UK and Ireland.  You’ll find an amazing fresh theming, a friendly attitude and entertaining tools like ‘Gay Crush’ and ‘Mothership Ratings’ to encourage you to interact with other hot guys.

Extensive user-defined options allow you to cruise for sex, or find love or friendship, or all three.  Mothership - gay dating like never b4!

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