In dating a lot is spoken about the chemistry between partners.
“We just clicked” “It feels right”
Even a big compatability based dating site uses phrases like “really click with” and “truly connect with” on its home page.
The right chemistry in a relationship – whether mental, sexual or spiritual – can be a positive - even electrifying - experience.
However, not all chemistry in a relationship is good. Sometimes the chemistry felt towards a lover can be a result of deep fault lines in our own psyches that we are inadvertently feeding in our relationships.
Are your loving relationships ruled by your past?
“Give me a child until he is seven and I will give you the man” Ignatius Loyola
The experiences in the first formative years of our lives influence our personalities forever. Sometimes imperfect childhoods can leave errors in the way we emotionally respond as adults.
These emotional traps, for want of a better word, can cause sufferers to seek out partners where they live out their negative childhood experiences all over again. Although this is destructive, they can be powerless to the strong romantic chemistry it can create in them.
Here are some examples of psychological flaws that can lead to bad chemistry in love:
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