Mothership Gay Dating, to me, is the incarnation of science fiction poetry, a literary genre established over the last forty years in response to the space race (culminating in Moon landings, building an international space station, mapping Mars ), and the need to come to terms with rapid progress in the worlds of scientific endeavour and our celebration of gay love.
No matter how many years since we came out as gay men, there tend to be those in the background, relatives or friends with whom we’ve spoken and corresponded over the years, without ever broaching the issue of our gayness. This is a loss to both parties, not only for the tensions it creates in us having to live a double life, but in the sense of not being able to discuss huge chunks of our life which are gay-related.
Recently, I did an interview at work to feature in the weekly free magazine. It is a regular question and answer piece called, ‘The Best Of….’ interview. One of the questions was, What’s your best-kept secret? My immediate answer was partly, “Well, I’m gay if it’s escaped anyone’s notice….” The answer to that turned out to be, yes it had - despite outing myself at the original interview for the job, and seven and a half years working there openly as a gay man, quite a few people said they had no idea. Read the rest of this entry »
Welsh singing legend Dame Shirley Bassey has been lured out of blissful seclusion in Monaco to record an album of 11 new songs specially written for her by the likes of Gary Barlow, Rufus Wainwright, the Pet Shop Boys, along with others of note. Simply titled The Performance, this offering from the 72 year old ” girl from Tiger Bay” raises questions quite apart from its musical merits, namely the nature of the relationship between gay men and their adored divas in decline.
It’s well-known that Shirley Bassey avails herself of means of preserving her looks and holding back the effects of time. and the results speak for themselves. However, the album’s cover shot makes her look so improbably youthful you might think she had been at the vampire juice.
There has been a very interesting development with civil partnerships.
A STRAIGHT couple have decided they would like a civil partnership, instead of getting married! What’s more, they’ve got the balls to do something about it.
The heterosexual couple - Tom Freeman and Katherine Doyle - are going to file an application to have a civil partnership at Islington Register Office.
“We don’t like the institution of marriage. We would much prefer a civil partnership. It is time there was legal equality in both civil marriage and civil partnerships,” said Mr Freeman and Ms Doyle.”
They say that the denial of civil partnerships to straight couples is
“discriminatory and perpetuates legal inequality.”
Peter Tatchell, of human rights group Outrage!, supports the couple, and will be accompanying them when they give notice at Islington Town Hall on 24 November 2009 at 10.30am. Read the rest of this entry »
Those who know me will tell you I’m a mild-mannered, tolerant, patient gay man who looks for the best in people, and would far rather praise than find fault. Well, not for this post. I feel the need to be critical about all those less scrupulous gay men on gay dating sites who variously dub themselves bi-curious, bisexual or in a gay relationship. Spare me from their pussyfooting antics. Give me a gay man, happy and confident in himself, who knows exactly what he wants - anytime. Read the rest of this entry »