Posted July 2nd, 2010 by outerlimits
Gay spanking is very erotic
It’s time we looked at gay spanking as a popular safe-sex activity, a sexual therapy, and as a particular turn-on. For some, spanking and corporal punishment in general is seen as an unfortunate fetish linked to childhood or schooldays, and while such associations may well play their part, on the whole the gay experience may transform these into a positive force for good.
When viewed as a sexual component of straight as well as gay behaviour, the attraction of spanking requires deeper evaluation. Desmond Morris, famous for books like The Naked Ape and tv series about manwatching and body language, studied zoology before trying to relate animal behaviour to human character traits in the newer field of ethology. Morris links the enjoyment of spanking to its rhythmic similarity to human intercouse, to a like pounding of the flesh. Read the rest of this entry »
Posted September 11th, 2009 by 1stofficer
Barebacking is playing roulette with HIV
In previous articles on gay barebacking we’ve looked at the consequences of becoming infected with HIV today. If you are infected nowadays, and you’re diagnosed promptly, then it is true that you can expect a near normal lifespan [1], and a near normal quality of life [2].
BUT, you still don’t want to become infected with HIV. You’ll have to have a lot of inconvenient check-ups and tests throughout your life. At some point you’ll need to start taking medication, and once you do you’ll have to continue for the rest of your life.
Whilst HIV is far more manageable for guys newly diagnosed today, it still isn’t going to do you any good. You may get some side effects from the drugs you have to take, and you may experience some stigma. It will also affect your sex life as you’ll have a responsibility to not pass the disease on.
So, the best advice is wear a condom to maximise your protection against HIV.
However, in the real world many gay guys still prefer to bareback and that choice should be respected. Read the rest of this entry »
Posted September 10th, 2009 by 1stofficer
Everyone is different, but these three great sex secrets work for most gay guys:
Secret 1: Sexual Chemistry
Sexual chemisty - the elusive X-factor that turbo charges your sex life
Sexual Chemistry is the gay sex X-factor. Have you ever had crap sex with a guy with model looks? Or had amazing sex with a guy you wouldn’t look at in the street?
Welcome to sexual chemistry - the elusive but essential ingredient to mind-blowing gay sex! Sexual chemistry is when you psychologically bond with your partner in a way that allows you to experience the deepest states of arousal. Read the rest of this entry »
Posted August 31st, 2009 by 1stofficer
It can be hard to resist the temptation to bareback
In our series of posts about barebacking we’ve looked at the consequences of becoming infected with HIV, and the importance of testing often so that if you do become infected with HIV your outlook will be much better.
Today we’re going to take a look at making the personal decision to bareback or not. In a perfect world all gay guys would use condoms, however, we don’t live in a perfect world, and the fact is that a lot of gay guys find condoms a turn off.
This post is written assuming you’re HIV negative. If you’re HIV positive then a site like GMFA will be able to give you more specialised advice. Read the rest of this entry »
Posted August 28th, 2009 by 1stofficer
Get tested once a year at least!
Yesterday we looked at how we need to establish the hard facts about HIV before making decisions or judgements about gay barebacking. Well, another hard fact about HIV is the earlier you get diagnosed HIV+ , the better your medical outcome.
So, get an HIV test early, and get tested often - that’s once a year, or after you have been put at risk (more below).
In the UK our HIV test rates are particularly poor compared to some other countries - Katherine Sladden of the National Aids Trust told Mothership Blog:
“…in Australia we know 85% to 95% of gay men have had a HIV test at some point in their lives. In the UK this is much lower, only 60% of gay men in the UK have ever had a HIV test.”
However, thanks to efforts from charities like the gay men’s health charity GMFA, there has been a considerable improvement in late diagnosis rates amongst gay men. GMFA’s Matthew Hodson told the Mothership Blog that in 2005 21% of gay men with HIV were diagnosed late, but by 2007 this figure was just 15% [2]. Compare that to 40% of the straight population with a late diagnosis. Read the rest of this entry »
