Of course it isn’t only gay men who cheat. Exposure of footballer John Terry’s recent marital lapse has prompted many of us to ponder our infidelities. Just being men, we may argue, we have an inbuilt tendency to roam and be predatory, or to get bored and distracted. As gay men we’re confronted by a lot of adorable blokes on the scene and a massive industry promoting the enticements of a gay lifestyle everywhere we look. Even gay couples who have been together twenty years or more are highly likely to have had sexual encounters with other men during that time - they just failed to break them up.
A friend was saying to me the other day (he’s a regular shag of mine), that he knows his boyfriend sleeps around and he doesn’t mind (naturally), but he can’t understand why his partner denies it and refuses to talk about it. I think it’s a consequence of the way we’ve come over many years , seeking the right to express gay love and imagining ourselves in some ideal relationship similar to the biblical one of David and Jonathan. This somehow fed into our liking for the muscle-bound heroes of the great screen epics over the decades, like Steve Reeves (Hercules Unchained), Stephen Boyd (Ben Hur), and Brad Pitt (Troy). It doesn’t take much to translate that into images of brave, young soldiers fighting the forces of Islamo-fascism today, and dying to preserve the free world we are an essential part of. Read the rest of this entry »
Is it me or do gay men have a lot of anger issues?
We’ve all heard the amusing expressions ‘drama queen’ and ‘hissy fit’ which surround gay men, and sometimes have an element of truth to them.
“Gay marriage? You wait till gay divorce!”
“I’ll make your best ever friend or worst ever enemy”
“Hell hath no fury like a gay man scorned!”
Well, I’ve been thinking about this subject quite a lot recently, as I’ve been dealing with quite a few anger issues of my own. Recognising, and starting to deal with, my own anger has helped me see it more and more amongst other gay guys. I’ve noticed a lot of anger on the Mothership gay forums recently (flaming), and in personal messages, and on TV, and when I’m in the shops, and in traffic, in fact all around me. But I especially notice it in gay men. Read the rest of this entry »
Paedophilia is an issue whose social aspect today is as feared as the mythical snake-haired Medusa, with the same ability to turn reason and compassion to stone. It is overwhelmingly a heterosexual problem, though sometimes seen by the ill-informed as a gay one. Having said that, LGBT people may profitably reflect on the matter from their own special vantage point.
A little research shows how neglected the subject has been, relegated even in academic psychiatric publications to brief chapters, thus suggesting fears even on the part of the medical profession of being seen to take undue interest in a highly taboo topic. Read the rest of this entry »
Join us for Christmas drinks on Saturday 12th December?
Christmas drinks with Mothership Gay Dating
This Saturday 12 December come and meet your fellow Mothership Gay Dating crew members at the Two Brewers in Clapham from 9.30pm!
The Two Brewers is a busy gay venue with both two bars (a cabaret and a club bar), with live cabaret and best of all entry is free until 10pm - after that you’ll pay £5 so don’t be late!
It is easy to find on Clapham High Street and just a short walk from the nearest tube is Clapham Common, see map.
Our last Mothership Gay Dating meet in Blackpool was a huge hit, and our forums are buzzing with our hot members looking forward to getting together in real life.
The cabaret this Saturday is the acclaimed Kandi Kane. Don’t forget, make sure you arrive before 10pm to avoid the £5 entry fee.
I hope you can come along and meet your friendly Mothership cyber friends in real life, and look forward to seeing you there! We’ll provide photos and details of how it went (plus the evening’s gossip!) in a future blog.
If you can’t make it, you can check out the guys on Mothership Gay Dating here!
All the best
David
Mothership Gay Dating
PS you are still in time for your Christmas shopping at the Mothership Store! You’ll find thousands of products, including a huge range of designer gay underwear which makes an ideal Christmas gift for your boyfriend, even if a slightly selfish one!
Mothership Gay Dating, to me, is the incarnation of science fiction poetry, a literary genre established over the last forty years in response to the space race (culminating in Moon landings, building an international space station, mapping Mars ), and the need to come to terms with rapid progress in the worlds of scientific endeavour and our celebration of gay love.
