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Gay dating sites have revolutionised the lives of gay and bi men in the last 13 years.  Where sites like facebook have rewritten the way people socialise and make friends, gay sites like Gaydar and Mothership Gay Dating have pioneered a sexual revolution in gay guys.

In the UK, it started properly with Gaydar who in 1999 introduced the first website where you could see live who was online right now.  Gaydar enjoyed explosive growth while gay men quickly caught on to the addictive new way of cruising for casual hook-ups.

Later, sites like Fitlads and Mothership brought a social element to online gay dating, and their communities of like-minded guys could hang out and chat online, as well as cruising for sex, and in many cases with the hope of a more serious loving relationship too. Read the rest of this entry »

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In dating a lot is spoken about the chemistry between partners. 

“We just clicked”     “It feels right”

Even a big compatability based dating site uses phrases like “really click with” and “truly connect with” on its home page.

The right chemistry in a relationship – whether mental, sexual or spiritual – can be a positive - even electrifying - experience.

However, not all chemistry in a relationship is good.  Sometimes the chemistry felt towards a lover can be a result of deep fault lines in our own psyches that we are inadvertently feeding in our relationships.

Are your loving relationships ruled by your past?

“Give me a child until he is seven and I will give you the man” Ignatius Loyola

The experiences in the first formative years of our lives influence our personalities forever.  Sometimes imperfect childhoods can leave errors in the way we emotionally respond as adults.

These emotional traps, for want of a better word, can cause sufferers to seek out partners where they live out their negative childhood experiences all over again.  Although this is destructive, they can be powerless to the strong romantic chemistry it can create in them. 

Here are some examples of psychological flaws that can lead to bad chemistry in love:
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Genital piercing is very popular in gay culture.  Whilst most of us will have heard of the Prince Albert, but do you know exactly what it is?  And how about the Apadravya, the Ampallang, the Magic Cross and the Frenum ladder?  Well we’ve put together a quick guide to male genital piercings.

 

The piercings covered in this guide are:

Prince Albert - Apadravya - Ampallang - Magic cross - Dydoe - Zephyr - King’s crown - Frenum - Frenum ladder - Havada - Guiche - Guiche ladder 

Prince Albert

The Prince Albert is the most commonly known genital piercing.  It is a single piercing in the underside of the penis from where the shaft meets the glans through to the urethra inside the penis.  Then an item of jewellery is inserted into the urethra so that it enters through the pierced hole and comes out through the ‘eye’ at the end of  the penis.  The jewellery is normally a curved barbell, a captive bead ring, a circular barbell or a prince’s wand.

The Prince Albert can enhance sexual pleasure for the wearer, as well as the recipient as the beads on the jewellery can stimulate the anus and prostate.  You need to have a sufficiently thick item of jewellery - too thin and you can tear your penis  (known as the ‘cheesewire effect’).

The Prince’s wand works slightly differently.  The wand is hollow with a removable bead on the end another threaded bead on the side.  The prince’s wand is inserted into the urethra, then an external bead is screwed into the wand through the pierced hole in the penis.  When the wearer needs to piss he can remove another bead in the end of the wand and pee through the hollow tube of the wand.

Did you know?

* The Prince Albert heals quickly - sometimes just 2-4 weeks.
* Your piss stream may spray and you may have to sit to pee.
* If the practitioner pierces just to the side of the frenulum it isn’t too painful.
* There is a female version - the Princess Albertina

Apadravya

The apadravya is a vertical piercing that enters through the centre of the upperside of the glans, through the urethra, and exits through the penis underside where the glans meets the shaft (the same place as the Prince Albert).  The jewellery used is a straight barbell, making sure it is big enough to accommodate the erection.  Because this piercing passes through the glans tissue it can heighten sexual pleasure considerably.

Did you know?

* The apadravya passes through the sensitive glans, and is going to hurt!
* It can take 6 months to heal.
* The double beads enhance sexual pleasure for the sexual partners too.
* It is known as the ‘happydravya’ and is even mentioned in the Kama Sutra!

Ampallang

The ampallang is like the apadravya, except the piercing is horizontal across the glans instead of vertically through it.  Again, a straight barbell is used.

Did you know?

* The ampallang can also be made through the shaft of the penis - known as a shaft ampallang.
* The Magic Cross is a combination of the apadravya and the ampallang - not done in one sitting!

Dydoe

The dydoe uses a small curved barbell to pierce through the ridge of the glans and into the adjacent shaft.  It is normally for circumcised guys only due to the foreskin getting in the way and preventing healing.  Normally either one dydoe is present at the vertical top of the penis where the glans meets the shaft, or there are two dydoes - each symmetrically either side of the top of the penis.

 

 

Did you know?

* A King’s Crown is when several dydoes are present.
* Dydoes are also popular with straight guys as the beads are very stimulating in vaginal sex.
* A deep piercing that exits closer to the tip of the glans (with a longer barbell) is known as a Zephyr.

Frenum

A frenum piercing is  a piercing of the frenulum - the skin on the underside of penis that connects the glans to the shaft.  It is nearly always horizontal (across the penis) and the jewellery used is either barbells or rings. 

Did you know?

* Frenum piercings heal fast - just 2 to 5 weeks
* A series of frenum piercings up the underside of the shaft of the penis is known as a frenum ladder.

Hafada piercing

A hafada piercing is a piercing of the scrotum.  Normally a hafada or scrotal piercing is a small piercing through a fold of the loose skin of the scrotum, with a ring, captive bead ring or barbell.

Did you know?

* Hafada piercings are quick to heal and not very painful
* A series of hafada piercings can be an extension of a frenum or guiche ladder

Guiche

The guiche is a piercing of the perineum - thats the curved mound between the scrotum and the anus.  Normally a barbell or a captive bead ring is used, and it is usual for the direction of the piercing to be horizontal - ie across the vertical axis of the body.

 

 

Did you know?

* A line of guiches is known as a guiche ladder (this can be an extension of a frenum ladder).
* A guiche is closer to the anus, so cleanliness is important after a guiche piercing to prevent infection.

 

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Unlike many of our competitors Mothership Gay Dating offers 100% free messaging to all members - you can send as many messages as you like without paying to upgrade your membership. 

One of the downsides of this is that it makes Mothership attractive to spammers - because they are not limited to sending 10 messages a day, they can copy and paste hundreds of manipulative, insincere messages designed to hook the unwary into a relationship that will eventually result in fraud.

Unfortunately we are having a bit of a deluge from spammers recently, as you may have noticed in your inbox.  We do have systems in place to stop spammers, but all protective systems have their blind spots.

However you can help.  If you spot a message that looks suspicious, simply hit the ‘REPORT SUSPECTED SPAM’  link in your message window.  This lets us know about it.  Best of all, if enough people hit the button, Read the rest of this entry »